Misery has found a corner in my heart. After weighing out my life, sorting through hurt, pain, sadness, happiness, and joy, I remain enveloped in a blanket of sorrow. Sorrow and wailing because I can’t find a way to forgive.
In trying to figure it out, I learned two things about myself. First, I’m tired of feeling like someone’s second choice. I have felt this way throughout my childhood and in my marriage, which mesh together from high school to marriage. The oldest of seven children, I never felt adequate enough to be my parents’ pride and joy.
My mother told me a few times she was proud of me, but I never felt it. Having to be the example as the oldest, I never felt it was good enough. Then I married.
My husband gave me many things. He worked hard, but for who? I never felt it was for me, not that material things mattered. Like he was always trying to impress someone else. I couldn’t compete with his intentions to win over everyone else. And his bad choices proved where his heart really was.
In the last 10 months I learned the second thing about myself; I am not as strong as I seem and/or want to be. I’ve never felt so low in my entire life. I often believe everyone will be better off without me. I’m not strong enough to be forgiving.
I have felt I’m not worthy to be in God’s presence. I have failed my family, myself and my Lord.
I’m still trying to figure it out. Although I’m not the person I’ve always wanted to be, I know one day I will figure it out. I have to.